411: Reparenting and Attachment with Dr. Judy Ho

Breaking Cycles: How Attachment Shapes Our Lives with Dr. Judy Ho In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, host Dr. Duff interviews neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho, a tenured professor at Pepperdine University and author of 'The New Rules of Attachment.' They discuss why people often find themselves stuck in repetitive cycles despite different strategies and self-care routines. Dr. Ho explains the significance of revisiting one's past to break patterns, diving deep into attachment theory. They explore how early attachments form who we are, why it's essential to recognize childhood traumas, and the role of self-talk in attachment styles. Dr. Ho also shares her personal parenting insights and the importance of forming a secure attachment with oneself. Additionally, they delve into actionable exercises from Dr. Ho's book that help uncover unmet needs of our inner child and promote lasting change. Tune in for an in-depth conversation about the transformative power of understanding and healing our attachments.   This episode is brought to you by NOCD, a powerful new network of providers specializing in exposure and response prevention. Get treatment for OCD that actually works at http://nocd.com This episode is also sponsored by BetterHelp – get 10% off your first month of online therapy at http://betterhelp.com/duff   Links! https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attachment-Relationships-Reparent/dp/1538741423 https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho https://drjudyho.com/   00:00 Introduction: Breaking the Cycle 00:40 Meet Dr. Judy Ho 01:14 The Importance of Early Attachments 02:46 Personal Stories and Apologies 05:47 Journey into Psychology 18:10 Understanding Attachment Styles 30:11 Understanding Attachment Styles and Self-Talk 31:27 The Challenge of Changing Self-Talk 32:26 The Importance of Patience in Forming New Habits 33:14 Recognizing Overthinking and OCD 35:07 The Mind-Body Connection in Attachment 37:25 Inner Child Work and Self-Attachment 40:22 Practical Steps for Inner Child Healing 44:45 A Real-Life Transformation Story 53:22 Balancing Career and Personal Life 57:04 Parenting and Attachment 01:00:08 Looking Ahead: Future Plans and Reflections