162. I’m Dying to Tell You with Dr. Mark Goulston (renowned psychiatrist) 🧠

“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” — Mark Twain Dr. Mark Goulston is a leading psychiatrist and communication expert. His mega-bestseller, Just Listen, is regarded as the world's #1 book on listening. Among his extensive list of professional achievements, Dr. Goulston has been a hostage negotiation trainer for the FBI; a consultant for renowned companies (including Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, and Disney); a contributor to the Harvard Business Review; and author of 9 books that have been translated into 28 languages. Since we first met in Episode 109, Dr. Goulston has become a close friend and mentor of mine. He's exceptionally good at what he does and I look forward to any opportunity we get to catch up. Recently, Dr. Goulston was given some unexpected news that made him rethink everything he's doing in his life. I asked if he'd be up for a conversation on the podcast so we could talk about that openly and help others who might be in a similar situation... Like he has done with every request I've asked of him, he graciously agreed. In this episode: How to save your marriage and create happiness with your family A simple exercise to win every day The gift of death – and the urgency of doing good; and How to get clear on what’s most important to you, before it’s too late. Let’s WIN THE DAY with Dr. Mark Goulston! _ 🎬 4K video version: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/gjGlYnp4hcg 📖 Blog version: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://jameswhitt.com/dying-to-tell-you-dr-mark-goulston _ Show links: 🧠 Ep 109: Win Your Mental Health with Dr. Mark Goulston ⚡ Dr. Mark Goulston website 📷 Dr. Mark Goulston Instagram 📚 Dr. Mark Goulston books on Amazon ❣️ Preventing the Seven Year Itch 2.0 🎤 TEDx Talk ‘What Made You Smile Today?’ by Mark Goulston 🍏 Enroll in the Win the Day Accelerator 🎬 Subscribe to Win the Day ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💚 Give Win the Day a 5-star rating on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🙏 Give Win the Day  a 5-star rating on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ _ Timemarkers: 0:16 Who is Dr. Mark Goulston 1:57 Interview starts 2:24 What Mark is dying to tell you 5:10 What a fixed timeframe for death teaches you about life 8:12 Give people the gift of caring about you 12:17 The 3 D’s of being a visionary thinker 14:04 Visionary dying 16:14 The Saber Six Foundation 18:09 How to control your emotional triggers 23:49 Mark’s approach to suicide prevention (surgical empathy) 26:05 The power of perspective 29:35 Spreading positivity through presence 33:21 What Mark wants his children to remember 34:34 How to keep your marriage strong when you’ve got young kids 39:39 Being reactive can destroy almost everything 41:20 How do you know if you should divorce or not 43:40 The secret to being good in conflict 46:05 How to assess the quality of your life 48:25 The top two ways to be accountable for any goal 49:37 Rocket Round 54:36 Susan Cain _ Want to support the show? 1. Hit 'Follow'. 2. Leave a 5-star rating. 3. Share this episode with a friend. This will help the podcast get discovered by more people so they can Win the Day, too. Thank you for your support! It truly means a lot 💕 Onward and upward always... #WinTheDay PS — In case you missed it: ⁠Living with Honor with Nina Aouilk (leading activist to end human trafficking and honor killing): Ep 158