Hyper-independence and Learning to Trust

“If you want something done, do it yourself,” goes a quote attributed to many people—from Bonaparte to Zorg from the movie, The Fifth Element. Many people who subscribe to this belief think it is necessary to become successful in life; but when your default nature is to push through and do the thing—all the things—rather than receive support from others, that’s hyper-independence. And hyper-independence is a trauma response.In this episode of the Trauma Hiders Club, I explain what hyper-independence is and why it’s a trauma response. I discuss how we bring our self-reliance to extremes as a result of trust issues. I discuss what it takes to trust. I also underscore your worthiness to receive love and support simply because you exist.“You are worthy of receiving, simply because you exist.” - Karen Goldfinger BakerThis week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:* Why hyper-independence is a trauma response* Defense mechanisms and tactics of survival* How we learn to be hyper-independent* What it takes to trust and trust againWhere High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHERThanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast’ with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-hiders-club-podcast/id1569664269) | TuneIn (https://tunein.com/podcasts/Health--Wellness-Podcasts/Trauma-Hiders-Club-Podcast-p1444567/) | GooglePlay (https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9vbW55LmZtL3Nob3dzL3RyYXVtYS1oaWRlcnMtY2x1Yi9wbGF5bGlzdHMvcG9kY2FzdC5yc3M) | Stitcher (https://www.stitcher.com/show/trauma-hiders-club-podcast) | Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/2ZOxHZICFQhfI2nbrIU2Ut) | Amazon Music (https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/e8ff8ce6-d410-4eec-b482-b297f7cb8a24/Trauma-Hiders-Club-Podcast)Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you.Join me on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/kbakercleve), Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/kaygeebee007/), and LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/bakerk/), and visit my website (https://www.karengoldfingerbaker.com/) to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.