#17 - Why A Relationship Is A Moving Average Of The Last 50 Days

In Episode #17, “Why a Relationship is a Moving Average of the Last 50 Days,” I delve into the world of relationship culture, inspired by personal events and reflections. The episode begins with a recount of my exit talk at a company, a moment that highlighted the often overlooked need for a proactive and intentional approach to forming culture. The narrative then transitions to a heartfelt story of reconnection with my close friend, Pete. Our healing conversation laid the foundation for reshaping our friendship, allowing us to see each other as we are now, beyond past perceptions.I discuss the common misconceptions surrounding culture, emphasizing that it's not just a PowerPoint slide of wishful values or a one-off event. It's about the daily actions and interactions between people, boiling down to the smallest unit. It's the emerged behavior, that we have been collectively doing every day. I explore the dimensions of culture in various relationships, from friendships to partnerships, emphasizing the continuous effort required to nurture them.Sharing a personal story of reconnection with Pete, I emphasize the importance of understanding each other as we are now and the conscious effort, vulnerability, and open communication needed to maintain and repair relationships. We both acknowledged that we didn’t allow ourselves to see each other as we are now, but stuck to the versions of ourselves when we met more than 10 years ago at Crytek. This realization led to a decision to repair and reignite our friendship, leaving behind the versions of who we were more than 10 years ago.In the concluding segment, I draw a parallel between company culture and relationship culture, highlighting the continuous effort both entail. I describe life as a dance floor, where building a culture or relationship is like dancing together, learning, and growing as we move along. The episode underscores the importance of flexibility, mindfulness, and understanding in this dance, allowing for growth and the occasional misstep.Join me in this episode as I explore the depths of relationship culture in the last 50 days. Let’s embark on this journey together, learning, growing, and supporting each other along the way. Your support is invaluable, so please don’t hesitate to rate or share this episode. Thank you for being a part of this adventure, and let’s keep growing together in the world of relationship culture.Resources:* Matthew Dekay - The Four Agreements This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.howtounreasonable.com