424 This Is My Moment | February 2018 Wednesday Week 5

Wisdom Wednesdays-#424 February 28th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast This, Is My Moment   “I am building a fire, and every day I train, I add more fuel. At just the right moment, I light the match.” ~Mia Hamm We search our whole lives questioning whether we did the right things, whether we acted at the right time, whether we went to school for the right profession, whether we picked the right mate, and whether we made the best choices in all manners of our lives. We look at life as equal balance, and symmetrical in every way. Which it can be, but when we place ourselves straddling the line between two opposing choices we can get confused on where we are standing.   We say things are either correct or incorrect, up or down, left or right, as we ultimate are focusing on whether we took action in the right moment or whether we blundered it. But there’s no right time, there’s only action and inaction. Sure, there are better times than others. But if we spend our lives waiting for the perfect moment without taking action, it won’t matter when that moment comes because first off you won’t even recognize it, and secondly you won’t be prepared for it.   We wait for our stage to come to us, saying I can’t wait till my time comes. But when we do that, what we’re really saying is I’m not willing to do the work to prepare myself for that stage. Frank Sinatra said, “People often remark that I'm pretty lucky. Luck is only important in so far as getting the chance to sell yourself at the right moment. After that, you've got to have talent and know how to use it.”   The best in the world know a secret that mere mortals have forgotten, that every moment is our perfect moment. And so we can spend a lifetime wishing for things to align themselves up with us…instead of working to align ourselves up with those things we want in our lives. We get effort and action confused. We spend a lot of brain power focusing on how to move something or how to be something and then never move to become it because we did all that work in our minds. We spent hours planning, and focusing, but then never took action upon all of that internal processing.   And so we live only in one of two world, the world within our minds or the physical world of our hands—never fully combining both of them together at the same time to the best of our ability. But when we can bring both of them together, that’s when the right moments begin occurring. And it will seem like coincidence or magic on how things are happening for you…when all it was, was you making your perfect moments instead of waiting for them. Because even a wrong action in the right moment is better than no action at all. And don’t get me wrong thinking I’m saying you have to be moving all the time. It’s really about bringing planning, focus, and action together to help you create better moments.   There was a TED talk given by Ruth Chang called How To Make Hard Choices. And she equated that the reason choices are hard is because we look at the answers as being one of only 3 outcomes better, worse, or equal. And so we look at two choices and have trouble deciding because how do you compare if you should marry Johnny instead of Joe, or how could you know if you’ll be happier being an artist or a social worker? And so she states we try to make our decisions based upon science, about quantifiable measures that will give a number value to each option that will make it easier for us to decide.   And so when two choices seem equally hard to make, instead of saying one is better, worse, or equal we can look at them as on par with each other. Ruth said that “when we choose between options that are on par, we can do something really remarkable. We can put ourselves behind an option. Here’s where I stand. Here’s who I am, I am for banking, I am for chocolate doughnuts, I am for… ”   And maybe it’s that simple; there’s no right answer. There’s only the values and reasons we put to choices that are on par with each other and we decide to stand for what means the most to us. We make a choice based upon our reasons that we most want to stand for in that moment…rather than being told who we have to be by society, by our mates, by our friends, or by our families. We make the choice to be the authors of our life story. We decide to be behind not what is better, worse, or equal to in our choice making palette…but rather we look at who we want to be, we look at the reasons we want to stand behind something, and then we make a choice knowing it will never be wrong. It will be the purposeful action of choosing what we value most, what reasons we want to stand for, in that moment.   The perfect moment is the moment we live in, and the right action will be the one we move towards; because even a wrong choice will bring enlightenment. Your time is now, not because you were lucky to fall into place at the perfect time but because you saw that in every moment…was your moment. The Universe will give you whatever you ask of it; it’s already giving it to you. Some just have forgotten that the Universe works like a boomerang. Every word we utter, every thought we focus on, and every action we take is a conversation with that Universe, and it is always returning what we put out into it.   So how intentional are you in your behaviors? How willing are you to change your mind about how you look at problems? What if you were to see two choices not as worse, better, or equal…and instead see them as on par with each other? And then what if you were to look at the reasons you would want to stand for that option…for you, and no one else? How different do you think you would live your life?   In each moment there’s the choice to either try to align things up with you—to force yourself into a box, or to affirm and stand for what you are and align yourself up with what you seek. I believe it’s much easier to align ourselves up than to try to force something to align itself up with us. The Universe will give us what we ask of it, but sometimes I think we get confused in asking for things that we aren’t aligned up with. So let’s turn the equation around and work from within…rather than working from outside of ourselves.   Today’s Personal Commitment: Go Watch Ruth Chang’s TED talk. I’ll have a link to it in my blog notes on my site. After you watch it think about two choices you might be struggling with, and ask yourself how you have been making it harder to choose?   I like how Ruth said to think of those difficult choices as on par with each other, and then find the reasons that you are more in line with—the reasons that you want to stand for.   For me I know I can have anxiety after making a tough decision. I endlessly question if I made the right choice, but when I get to thinking that way I’m not trusting the process. So, the next time you make a decision between two choices that are on par with each other… remind yourself that there was no wrong action. There were the reasons you decided to stand for…and that everything will always work itself out in the end. So, have faith in yourself and the action; and move forward knowing YOU are creating the perfect moments. You are living a purposeful life by deciding to live in anticipation and love of the moment instead of fear and regret during the moment.   This, Is My Moment   Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247     Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide