414 New Opportunities Excite Me February 2018 Sunday Week 4

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Smiling Sundays-#414 February 18th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast New Opportunities Excite Me   I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something. Neil Gaiman I was discussing with a friend of mine years ago. I said that I hated breaking up with people because then I have to go out and do it all over again. I was comfortable with how things were, it wasn’t scary, I knew the person, I knew what I liked in them, and they knew me. And when I was meeting someone new, you’re trying to figure out who they are, what they like or don’t like, and you’re trying to read between the lines to see if they’re being truthful in talking about the angel they are; or whether they actually are a homicidal maniac.   And my friend replied back, that he loved new relationships. He said it’s exciting getting to know someone. It’s exciting doing something new. It’s really cool expanding his knowledge in talking with someone new. And he listed off like ten reasons; he must have been thinking about that question for awhile. Which gets me thinking about successful people, in whatever area of their life they’re successful in, it’s not an accident they’ve thought about what they want, they’ve planned for the obstacles and wins along the way, and they’re deliberate with focusing their mindset upon success and nothing else.   So my friend and I were seeing the same event…differently. He saw it with hope and excitement; where I saw it with disdain and resistance. I can’t speak for my friend on the deeper reasons behind his explanations on why he loved new relationship; but for me, the reason I saw new relationships as pain was that it was scary for me. It was another person I would go out with, who had the chance of leaving me and rejecting me again. The rejection is what I feared the most—that I wouldn’t be good enough….again.   I’ve struggled with relationships because I’ve been telling a story for a good portion of my life. I’ve been telling the story that whoever comes in my life…leaves me. And seeing things that way not only creates sadness, fear, and resistance…but it attracted more fear in my life. When one area of our life is malfunctioning, it affects every area of our life. And when we ignore the problem and sweep it under the rug thinking it’s better to avoid it, that problem will rear it’s ugly fire-breathing dragon head somewhere else one way or another.   But I’m digressing away from new opportunities. The only way I could find peace from my fear of new relationships was to become a monk and live in a cave away from society…and that solved all my problems.   But seriously, I had to tell a new story. I had to realize that I wasn’t afraid of new relationships; I was afraid of connecting with the wrong people. And thinking that way kept me living within a lie, as I told myself internally that new relationships are painful. In fact, it went deeper than that as I told myself that ALL relationships are hard work and painful as everyone leaves anyways, so why bother.   And coming to realize this is the story I was telling, that awareness began changing my life. I’m not saying I was fully healed by snapping my fingers, but I am learning to love myself more before jumping into a relationship in hopes that someone will heal me…because the only way I’ll be healed is if I decide to heal myself first. My mentor Mike told me that to be one with another, you must be one with yourself first. We must strive to be whole with ourselves first, so we aren’t looking for other people or other things to fix us.   For me I would go into relationships broken, hoping that person would be the answer. When it’s not that the person was the answer, but they would help accentuate the great things within me, and I would help accentuate their great things within them. But the start of that process has to begin with healing from within first.   It’s like the movie Jerry MacGuire where he the main character tells the leading lady, you complete me, and all the ladies swoon after he says it. And it’s a nice sentiment thinking that someone will make us whole, but the only way we become whole with another person, or even that goal we desire that we think will make us complete, is we become whole with ourselves first.   When we understand we are whole already, then we will know that the external goal or person will never complete us; they will help accentuate our happiness, our gifts, our love, our weaknesses, our strengths, and our completeness on a whole other level. Yes, people can make us better, but they don’t make us whole, we decide to be that. Again, to be one with something or someone else, we must first be one with ourselves.   Today’s Personal Commitment:So I took this in the direction of relationships, but how do you look at new opportunities? Are you excited because you hate the old, are you excited because you see great things in new endeavors, or are you fearful and/or resentful because with new opportunities comes change?   It’s raining here in Tennessee, and it’s supposed to rain more throughout the week, as it rained a good deal last week too. And on social media I see people complaining that they are over it. Not realizing that it still is February, which means it’s still winter and it could be colder and more miserable. But instead, they want to complain about the current condition of what they think they don’t want instead of seeing the beautiful opportunity within it.   I believe the reason we miss so much happiness in our lives is because we don’t plan to be happy. We think it’s something that just happens when the conditions are right, and when they fall into place… THEN we’ll be happy. So we focus on what’s wrong in the situation, never realizing how we are stealing our own joy away from ourselves; we never realize that we’re missing a beautiful moment wishing for something more than what’s happening right now.   Sure, I get it…people love the sun. But when the summer comes they’ll be complaining it’s too hot and how they can’t wait for fall, or winter, or snow, or a different place altogether. So do you see the beauty in where you are and find the magnificence in new opportunity? Do you plan your happiness every day and make it a priority, or do you look at what you don’t like and find all the reasons this moment isn’t what you want?   What’s the story you’re telling in your life right now? Is it focused on fear of the future, regret from the mistakes in the past, sadness of what you don’t have, or maybe even the issues with the present moment at hand? Or do you find beauty in the moment, no matter what’s happening, as this is another chance to find new opportunities in this beautiful new day at hand?   The completeness you seek is not outside of yourself; it’s always been within. And it’s not that I am saying put on rose-colored sunglasses loving the things you hate…it’s that I am asking you to look at what you love and find more of it in the moment.   New Opportunities Excite Me   Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247     Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide

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