392 I Hold Onto What Makes Me Stronger | January 2018 Saturday Week 4_

Synergistic Saturdays-#392  January 27th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast I Hold Onto What Makes Me Stronger “Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.”~Hermann Hesse One of my biggest problems is holding onto things I should let go of. Take for example this podcast; I tend to have a lot of ideas when I’m writing for it, and during my brainstorming process, I write in stream of consciousness. I take an idea, and just let all the words fall out of my brain as I put pen to paper (or more accurately fingers to keyboard)—not trying to plan anything out. I work through flow and connecting with my subconscious. And after I feel like I’ve written for a sufficient amount of time, or exhausted my thought process for the moment, I’ll look over my writing to edit and flesh out thin ideas. I don’t outline too much unless it’s something bigger. For my book, I needed an outline to keep me directed. By keeping to the outline it kept me on task, and when I felt I was stuck in one chapter or idea the outline gave me other places to look. It helped to keep me writing on something else that I felt more creative about at the moment. But on my podcasts, I don’t outline much as I don’t want to go into every detail known to man. I just want to get some good ideas out there, and to get not only myself thinking but you as well in being more efficient in life. The problem I run in to with writing my podcasts is when I don’t want to let go of ideas. I’ll write something that I think is interesting and I’m like oh this is a great idea you can’t let go of this. I tell myself that you as the listeners NEED to hear it, it might be that one piece of information that could change your life. And so what happens, is I put some good information in the podcast that really doesn’t fit like it should. Sure it always seems to work out alright, but it’s me trying to cram in too much information at one time. In fact, I did it the other day putting in some interesting facts, but I questioned if I should have used it for another podcast. I lied to myself saying it would have been too much work to delete it or to cut it out and put in my file for future topics. And so I get lost in the conundrum of whether I should be more concise or whether I should add more ideas in just in case it resonates with someone. By holding so tightly on to things, it makes me afraid. It puts an anxiety on me that keeps me from relaxing. And when I’m not relaxed, I’m not able to put my best content out into the podcast. No one seems to know, or at least I hope I don’t bore you to death with my podcast and you just haven’t told me, but it’s me putting out something that isn’t my highest effort. And it’s not from me trying, I put hard work into it, but the hard work is misdirected as sometimes it’s more about trying to cram everything in, instead of putting the best most concise information in. I think it’s easy to be afraid of letting things go, because you don’t want to make a mistake in not putting everything out there that you can. It’s the thought that what if I let go of this one thing and I made a mistake and can never get it back. And for me, I sometimes get thinking that more is better, and that I need to provide everything to my listeners. And by thinking this way it takes me away from my mission. Well, one of my missions. And that purpose, is to be a place that people can get a quick but powerful podcast in changing the way they process their day and their life. And when I try to add in every piece of information, when I over cram a podcast with other ideas, what happens is I convey a message that I don’t trust my listeners. It’s a message saying that I think I have to hold their hands and spell everything out for them like confused school children. But what I truly hope for, is that people will hear my ideas and they will finish them—that they will add more to them and make them more complete for their lives. Because while I believe I have good ideas and questions—I believe you have better ones. I believe that when you and I collaborate we make ideas better. So I like to think of myself as the sandpaper on the side of a matchbox, and you as the match…as we come together to ignite a change within. So what are you holding on to, in a negative manner, because you’re too afraid to let it go? Are you like me, trying to get every piece of information out to others because you’re afraid that what you say will never be enough? Are you a hoarder of things—worried that you won’t have what you need when you need? And so you stockpile everything up afraid to let go of anything just in case you might need it later. Are you afraid of losing people in your lives, so you create relationships that aren’t the best for you? Are you afraid of being alone, and so you make poor choices in the company you keep? Whatever it is that you’re holding onto due to fear, they all basically come from the same source—the fear of not being enough. Now listen to me closely here…you will NEVER be enough…because you will ALWAYS be more than enough. And while we will never be perfect, that doesn’t mean you won’t bring something great to everything you partake in. We want not to come up short, we want to be worthy for the task at hand, and we want to be every answer that’s needed for every problem, and that’s the ego speaking. So it’s not that you aren’t enough, it’s that you’re trying to find your worth in things, in being something, instead of knowing you already are something. And when you truly grasp this idea at your core…you will stop trying to prove your worth, and you’ll be automatically living your worth. Your strength won’t originate from fear; it will come from the comfort of being secure under your skin…knowing you are always more than enough. Today’s Personal Commitment:I give you permission to take a break today, or this weekend. We feel we always have to be doing something, or that if we aren’t doing something we’re being lazy…and so we punish ourselves for resting. You deserve a rest, and not just a break where you feel guilty for not doing something. So take an hour out of your day to do something for yourself, even if it’s just purposefully relaxing. Now some people will say I waste too much time watching TV or Netflix, or napping. That’s fine if you already do that, but a lot of times we do it mindlessly. So when you choose a reward for yourself, choose purposefully, and tell your mind that you are giving yourself a much-deserved break from all the stress and things you’ve been holding on to. By telling your brain this, you are letting it know that it can rest too, and that your brain doesn’t have to be thinking about all the things you should be doing instead. That’s why when I tend to rest, I never rested. I was always beating myself up for the things I should’ve been doing. And even though it was a break, it was still draining on me. So be purposefully in your rest. Love yourself enough to silence the chatter in your mind telling you that you have to be busy 24/7. Know you are enough, not by what you do, but by who you already are. So give yourself a break, know you are worthy, and rest purposefully. And the more you do this purposeful rest, then the freer you’ll become. You’ll find yourself less stressed, more energized, more creative, and more purposeful. You’ll work to hold onto things that matter, not trying to hold onto things out of fear. I Hold Onto What Makes Me Stronger   Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn Contact info- email: [email protected]  phone:865-219-3247     Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide