320: What If . . . This Was the Year It All Came Together? Are You Ready?

“You were brave and it paid off.” I am starting with where you will be at the end of 2022 because it is absolutely possible. Yes, it is. Let me first acknowledge where you might find your mind when you first read the title of today's post/episode followed by the quote. Doubtful, skeptical, it is wishful and empty thinking you present Shannon. Okay, I hear you, I acknowledge those same feelings arose in my own mind when such a question - What If . . . ? and just that quote regarding being brave first crossed my path. After all, we all have reason to be terrified after the past two years due to everything that has unfolded, what has been revealed, what we have had to do to make it through. We all have beyond justifiable reason to play it safe, to hold on to what is left (or what we think is left), to be scared, to be doubtful, but I am choosing to look at it differently, and this will come as no surprise to readers of the blog and this podcast as the content shared on TSLL especially over the past two years, but over the entire life of the blog (12 years) has defaulted to possibilities becoming reality. More than any time previously, collectively speaking, the world has witnessed both the privilege and the disparity, the unexpected and never predicted as well as the power of people. We can utilize what we have witnessed and elevate not only the lives of those around us, but our own life or we can ignore it and continue to just get along. I choose the former and I am confident you will as well. In the Broadway play If/Then with Idina Menzel cast in the lead role, a play I had the good fortune to watch in 2014 - my first ever to see with my own eyes in NYC - the idea is presented regarding what happens when two different paths are chosen by the same person. How does one's life unfold? Will we end up in the same place years removed or will we give up opportunity? Does fate play a role or not? From romance to career, to friendships, (there is even a song titled, What If? - listen to here or below), both storylines play out before theater-goers' eyes, and what is witnessed is that our choices do matter, our bravery matters; however, in both storylines, we cannot control the other pieces of the story - the other people, the world events, the interactions and storylines of other people and what they are going through in their own lives. But we can dare to love, dare to step forward into the unknown, dare to try, dare to be fully human and be kind and curious because when we choose this approach, we let love into our lives in both hoped for and unexpected ways, we create memories we never want to forget and we build relationships and legacies we are proud to have taken part in with our whole heart. https://youtu.be/IiqiSEc1Msc Below I have gathered up potential hoped for and desired scenarios you may hold in your heart as you stride into 2022 as Norman is striding onto the beach in the picture below. Paired with each I have included what each of us will need to do in our lives to ensure the best possibility for our hope to materialize. In other words, we cannot sit, cross our fingers and be passive. No, we must act, we must take part, we must engage and do so in constructive and secure ways to give the opportunity the best enticement to unfold before our very eyes. Let's take a look at the list below. What If . . . your health flourished? Learn to understand why you eat the food you do - emotional triggers, perceived voids, needing to know how to cook well and with what: 9 Ways to Organize Your Kitchen, Improve Your Health & Help Out the Planet; 15 Kitchen Tools to Cook Anything Like a Pro; check out The Simply Luxurious Kitchen cooking show for seasonal fare to elevate the everyday meal. Explore preventative mental health practices: Quality Thoughts = Quality Life; Taming the Overthinking Mind Become curious about gardening for both physical and mental health benefits: 10 Whole Life Benefits of Gardening; 10 Things Gardening Can Teach Us About Living Well What If . . . you met and built a healthy, loving relationship with someone? Dare to trust and let go of stories: episode #319 Learn the skill of non-violent communication: check out #4 in this post/episode #294 Teach yourself how to be love in your everyday interactions. Practice patience: be investigative rather than expectant, let yourself be amazed as you courageously reveal yourself gradually and attentively observe them as they reveal themselves to you. What If . . . the world changed in a way that opened up unexpected possibilities in which your skill-set soars? Find and exercise the courage to say yes (and read this post - Why Not . . . Say Yes?) Understand why doubt exists. Then don't let it hold you from saying yes. (read this post on The Difference Between Being Scared & Having Doubts) Extinguish Self-Doubt (learn how here) What If . . . you found a steady peace of mind in your everydays? Ground yourself with daily meditation Understand the difference between contentment and happiness: Discover how choosing contentment increases moments of happiness; Making a shift to cultivating contentment from pursuing happiness Live in awareness by being present in your everydays. What If . . . you fell in love with the work you do or began doing work you love? Improve your approach to working: Listen to episode #283 to discover 7 Ideas for improving your experience at work and the outcome Understand the power of positive interaction at the workplace for greater career success: Listen to episode #231 Invest social capital in your Life Network to Optimize Your Professional Life (and Personal Life too), episode #204 Make the middle of the work week just as awesome as Friday or the weekend: Read 11 Ideas for making this happen Our lives are unfolding as we read this post. And the gift to each of us is that we are here, alive and capable of being the main character in our story if we choose to engage fully. By choosing to engage with loving-kindness and integrity in each of our actions, we build a force of energy full of peace of mind as we know while we have been true to ourselves we have also considered those we love and what selflessly is what will honor their journey as well. We don't ignore ourselves, but rather respect ourselves. We are loving in the thoughts we let about in our mind which further strengthens our peace of mind and how we 'see' the world, we are loving in our actions, we are loving with our words. But rest assured, being loving doesn't mean being weak or soft or a push-over, but it does require us to allow others to be who they are even when it doesn't make sense to us, even if it is different than how we would live our lives. Loving asks us to extend appreciation, sincerely and often which means we must look for what is going well all the time which makes it far more difficult to look for what is not going well, thus limiting or eliminating any reason to complain. Loving asks us to be affectionate, to be vulnerable and not withhold giving love to others - a touch of the arm, a hug, a kiss, a kind word. So won't you too step forward and dare to elevate the potential of what this year can bring into your life and those you love? Living in the mindset of "What If . . . ?" is not to hold on to hope. In the context of what we are talking about today, it is a taking responsibility of our actions, how we present ourselves - the thoughts that turn into words, the words we use, the tone surrounding those words, the actions we take rather than being passive, what we step toward and engage with and what we let go and let be. Living in the mindset of 'What If . . .?" removes us from the director's chair and puts us on the stage of life to engage with what is presented by others on the stage with us at any given moment. Living in the mindset of 'What If . . . ?' requires us to live in awareness and to take action where we acknowledge we need to grow, where we are hindered by our current choices/actions/thoughts the life we desire from materializing. It requires us to handle our egos with command of understanding when it is unhelpful and guiding us down a path that will not be fortuitous, and also knowing when it can help us, but never letting it lead. Living in the mindset of 'What If . . . ?' reiterates the importance of putting in the time. Time when we are not recognized, not out in front of the crowd, not receiving attention, but instead trusting ourselves to invest with both our time, our money, our focus to create the possibility of a new reality. May 2022 delight and amaze you, and may you find the courage to be brave. Here we go! SIMILAR POSTS/EPISODES YOU MIGHT ENJOY episode #214: Attaining the Change You Seek in the New Year Why Not . . . 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