TPJ 63: Unvictimize Yourself

Even without a global pandemic, life can be hard. Bad things happen and we all experience difficulties and challenges. It’s easy to feel sorry for ourselves and go through life as a victim. But I’m here to tell you that there’s so much more waiting for you on the other side of victimhood, and you can decide to leave it behind. Let’s discuss how. 

[04:07] Society pressures us to sacrifice everything on the altar of parenthood.

[05:36] Feeling your feelings is step 1, and victims get stuck here.

[08:01] It's ok to feel that way. But do you really want to stay there? 

[10:31] Humans have the ability to overcome the craziest challenges and hardships, and can come through it stronger.

[12:49] Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.

[15:12] If you want to stop feeling like a victim, you have to stop seeing yourself as a victim.

[17:32] Not all stress is bad.

[18:37] We need to mind our own business and focus on things we can control. 

[20:36] We need to take control of our thoughts.

[23:32] We have power over our words.

[30:13] Double down on what we can control.

[32:40] Present Play is an amazing resource to help overcome a victim mentality. Join before the doors close for another year!

The choice is ours! We can stay in the suffering and live life as a victim, or decide enough is enough and leave it behind. So much of it is within our control. We are not powerless. We’ll find that these simple changes will have a major compounding effect if we continually reframe our situation and choose to stop seeing ourselves as a victim. 

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