#329 He Still Loves His Ex But Likes Me

In this video, I answer a question I got from a reader. Here’s the email: “So I found out some more information today talking to a guy because we’ve had a bit of an argument where I was telling him things I wasn’t comfortable with and if he can respect it and make changes we can keep talking. He said that he is friendly with an ex like from 10 years ago, they broke up because he felt it wasn’t going to work out. She had a lot of issues, and it was from when he was 20. they were together for 2 years, and no cheating or anything—they just split. But she’ll hit him up like on holidays, or if she needs something. I said that’s a red flag to me, he said that he won’t cut her off because he’s a nice person and it’s called being human. I said ‘that’s weird’ that someone needs you. Like, she doesn’t have friends or a boyfriend or any guy friends, and she’s gotta reach out to you? And he said that he doesn’t see anything wrong with that. He said he had boundaries, nothing had happened, and nothing will happen. It’s been 10 years and nothing has happened. I’m not really sure how to feel about all of that. Do you see a problem with this? I also wanted to add that my issue with dealing with exes is that unless there is a kid involved, I don’t think people need to be in touch or in contact if they are an ex. Now I don’t know if that is stemming from my trust issues and I’m just very cutthroat when it comes to people from the past, but I believe they should stay in the past. I don’t know why people out in this world talk to people that they used to hook up with or have intimate relations with, or how they’re able to be civil and still care about this person and want to know what their life is doing and what they are up to and stuff like that—because quite frankly, I do not care about what my exes are doing. So I have really been thinking about my situation with this guy, and it’s just annoying to me. I don’t really want to deal with it but I like other things about him. And clearly there is no forcing someone to change.” Join my Mastermind Tribe: http://joshuasigafus.com/MastermindTribeMy Website: https://joshuasigafus.com/ YouTube: http://joshuasigafus.com/YouTube Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JoshSigafusauthor Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joshua_sigafus/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoshSigafus LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-sigafus/ Podcast: https://anchor.fm/joshua-sigafus Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in my videos, podcasts, blogs, and other content are simply that - opinions. I have achieved positive results from using this information, but individual cases may vary. My opinions should never be considered legal advice or medical advice. I am not a licensed counselor. Though I make every effort to ensure that my content is helpful and relevant, under no circumstances should my content be considered anything other than entertainment. Use at your own risk. By watching my videos, listening to my podcasts, reading all of my written published materials, and consuming any of my other content, you agree that any losses or damages incurred as a result of utilizing the information obtained is your sole responsibility, and you agree to release Joshua K. Sigafus from any liability, legal or otherwise.