25. Healing Your Relationship to Pleasure with Samantha Stelk

In this powerful episode, Samantha Stelk, Women’s Self-love and Sexual Empowerment Coach, shares with us how women can reconnect to their bodies. We are getting rid of the stigma and diving into a place of love and freedom. If you’re ready to heal and feel the self-love that your body desires and deserves, this episode is for you. The Lost Connection [02:13] “I teach women how to connect to their bodies in healing ways to feel more self-love.” “Our relationship to pleasure is distorted-there’s lots of stigma around it. We need to reclaim it, knowing that it is really beautiful and holy to connect to ourselves with our sacred,sexual energy.” Feeling Unsafe in Ourselves [05:06] “We’ve learned that our bodies aren’t safe, and we disconnect from them.” “We don’t feel whole within ourselves, so we constantly reach outside ourselves for validation and to feel complete.” Come Home to Yourself [08:39] “The process of self pleasure is a way to come home to ourselves.” “I had to break the idea that sexuality was bad and it was evil to feel pleasure. Unconsciously my body was tight, constricted, and bound up.” Creating a Safe Space to Feel Loved [13:50] “It’s a life long relationship- it can go slow, there may be hiccups. Have compassion for yourself.” “Say, ‘My body is safe, my body is beautiful, I love my body’ to create that safe relationship with yourself.” “Being present can feel very scary, especially when dissociating is something that you commonly do. This is a process-comfort won’t come overnight.” Stop the Suppression [19:52] “Our sexuality is so suppressed because as women, when we are connected to our body we are powerful and beautiful.” “Cultivating our feminie energy and our essence and our ability to receive is a practice that balances us. We can disconnect to connect.” “Create an environment around intimacy. Create an environment that is conducive for opening up.” Connect to Your Femininity [24:00] “Using music can act as a way to connect with your femininity and your partner.” “Progress isn’t always reflected in our external environment, especially at the beginning.  “Exploring our anatomy can be so empowering because it can allow us to step out of that place of criticism and actually recognize that your body is divine.” “Having support to talk about pleasure ends the stigma. Find a community to help you free yourself.” Don’t Miss Out On Your Connection [37:17] “This work is really about building a bridge to these parts of ourselves that have been neglected, suppressed and shamed, and bringing them into the light and building new empowering relationships.” “We have so much power and wisdom that we’re missing when we continue to just go through the motions and be on autopilot.” “Anything is possible when we’re connected to ourselves.” Don’t Miss Out On Your Connection [46:00] Lovelegacycoaching.com IG: @beholdt Connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecoachablepodcast/ Connect with Tori on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachtorigordon/ Guess what?! WE'RE ON YOUTUBE! https://www.youtube.com/c/ToriGordon If you love the show and want to show your support, please leave us a 5 star rating and review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify! Go be coachabl Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices