Codependency is a B*tch

In this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the intricate and often misunderstood world of codependency. Drawing from her own experiences and professional insights, Brianne explores the various types of codependent personalities, from the passive to the anorexic codependent, and the challenges they face in their relationships and daily lives. She reveals the destructive patterns of behavior that codependents often fall into, such as people-pleasing, over-scheduling, and boundary issues, and offers practical advice on how to break free from these cycles. Brianne emphasizes the importance of self-care, establishing boundaries, and recognizing one's own worth independent of others. She provides actionable steps to help codependents detach from their need to fix others and focus on their own emotional well-being. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your sense of self and navigate relationships in a healthier, more fulfilling way. 🔑 Episode Keywords Codependency, Self-Worth, Boundaries, People-Pleasing, Emotional Well-Being, Recovery, Mental Health, Relationships, Personal Growth, Self-Care (00:00) Because what codependents do is they get their worth from other people and how other people treat them, how well other people are doing. (00:20) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Tell me your Secret, I'll tell you mine. (01:00) After twelve years of recovery in Sex and Love addiction, I finally found my soulmate myself. (02:00) Today I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets. (03:00) Today we are talking about dun dun dun. Codependency is a bitch. (Brianne Davis-Gantt) It is something you keep giving to somebody else because you have a void inside and you need there to give you worth, validation. (10:00) The passive codependent secretly buries anger and resentment with a persona of empathy and compassion. (15:00) The active codependent aggressively tries to control and manipulate narcissists. (20:00) Cerebral codependents devour education and transformative experiences to overcome narcissistic abuse. (25:00) Obvious codependents live by the mantra "ignorance is bliss." (30:00) Anorexic codependents starve themselves from normal emotions and sexual intimacy. (35:00) Codependents tend to do more than their share and have a huge fear of rejection and abandonment. (40:00) They apologize to keep the peace, often without genuine remorse. (45:00) They are the worst at keeping and creating boundaries. (50:00) They have difficulty making decisions and are often dishonest. (55:00) They are horrible at communicating their feelings. (01:00:00) Breaking the pattern of codependency involves prioritizing self-care and recognizing one's own worth. (01:05:00) It's okay to admit your childhood was tough and that your parents weren't perfect. (01:10:00) Don't offer advice unless asked, and stop enabling toxic behavior in others. (01:15:00) Don't feel guilty for self-care and alone time. You are enough. _____ If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com. _____ Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness. ______ 
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