The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure | POF133

When we first dream of becoming parents, we naturally think ahead to what we want for our kids in terms of their education, interests, sports, languages, and even what musical instrument they will play.  And when we have that child, some of these become solidified in our minds and expectations.   It’s natural to want the best for our children and to provide them with lots of opportunities. There are times though, where we get caught up in their activities, performance and interests and we put too much pressure on them to perform to a certain standard and it can do more harm than good.   I’m happy to welcome the distinguished Psychologist, educator and author, Dr. Christopher Thurber who co-wrote the book, “The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure”, to discuss pressure and praise and how we can avoid hurting our kids and encourage them instead.  In this episode, we talk about: Good and bad kinds of pressure How to praise for effort versus outcome How to front-load empathy The six Ss of praise - Soon, Spontaneous, Sincere, Specific, Striving, and Stand alone Unconditional Love For a copy of the author’s exclusive insights from their book, “The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure”, you can download it from the Parent Toolbox.  www.parent-toolbox.com About Christopher Thurber Chris Thurber, PhD, co-author of THE UNLIKELY ART OF PARENTAL PRESSURE, is a board-certified clinical psychologist, educator, author, and father with a BA from Harvard and a PhD in child and adolescent psychology from UCLA. He serves as a clinician and instructor at Phillips Exeter Academy. Hendrie Weisinger, PhD, co-author of THE UNLIKELY ART OF PARENTAL PRESSURE, is a world-renowned psychologist and pioneer in the field of pressure management, as well as the author of a number of bestselling books. He has consulted with and developed programs for dozens of Fortune 500 companies and government agencies. Contact Information: Email: [email protected] Phone Number: (603) 557-8111 Social Media: Website: https://drchristhurber.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drchristhurber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drchristhurber/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chris.thurber               Thanks for listening! It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism. We have too much of that! I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be. My hope is to inspire more parents to consider the practice of Peaceful Parenting. If you know somebody who would benefit from this message, or would be an awesome addition to our community, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe on the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave a review I appreciate every bit of feedback to make this a value adding part of your day. Ratings and reviews from listeners not only help me improve, but also help others find me in their podcast app. If you have a minute, an honest review on iTunes goes a long way! Thank You!!   To rate and review my show go to: https://ratethispodcast.com/parentingourfuture.     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices