42 - DATING - The fearful avoidant attachment style, how to communicate without being toxic and how to know if your partner is ever going to change

The attachment style - fearful avoidant, also known as ‘disorganized’ is often overlooked. Do you feel like you want to be close to people and want their love, but when you get close, you feel like it is a dangerous space to be in? Maybe you push people away before they can push you away, but deep down want to be and feel loved? Did you experience deeply stressful, neglectful or abusive situations as a child that make you feel that love is not only scary, but sometimes actually dangerous? Do you expect or fear people might hurt you?  If this is you, or it sounds like your partner, this episode is for you. Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack discuss: ⠀⇢What is a disorganized attachment style⠀⇢How did it form in childhood⠀⇢What are disorganized people actually scared of (you might be surprised!)⠀⇢What’s the difference between feeling fearful and avoidant in life or dating and actually having a disorganized attachment style?⠀ Plus, we discuss what happens & what to do when a partner is not working on their attachment style.Louise asks Dr Tari: ⠀⇢How patient should you be with someone’s attachment style?⠀⇢Is an attachment style enough to break up with someone for?⠀⇢What to do if someone’s attachment style is bringing you unhappiness?⠀⇢And, ultimately, how conflict can actually bring you closer together if you learn to regulate your attachment style And more! Louise also shares her own experiences with a ‘disorganized’ ex boyfriend and how one moment changed the entire relationship.  ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball ⠀ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife ⠀ Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack ⠀ Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀Quote OPENHOUSE for your discount on a relationship reading with Dr Tari - https://www.drtarimack.com/ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀ Music Sources ⠀ Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud ⠀ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices