41 - DATING - Are they poor at communication or are they avoidantly attached? Exploring the Avoidant Attachment Style

Ever dated an avoidant man or woman? They disappear when conflict starts or a conversation heats up? You feel like you get close to them, but never quite fully there? Maybe you are one yourself and other people feel ‘too needy, too much’, or that being independent and alone is safer and less hectic. Maybe you don't see the point in talking about your feelings, don't like to depend on others for help, think relationships are a lot of work or just prefer 'being mysterious?'If this is you, or it sounds like your partner, this episode is for you. After the success of our anxious attachment series, we know you will take deep value from this episode  Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack discuss: ⇢What is an avoidant attachment style⠀⇢How did it form in childhood⠀⇢What are avoidantly attached people actually scared of (you might be surprised!)⠀⇢Why do the avoidantly attached live life with a ‘buffer’ between them and others ⠀⇢Why the fear of true intimacy drives an intermittent reinforcement cycle ⠀⇢Why an anxiously attached person is often an avoidantly attached person’s worst nightmare ⠀⇢Why you can never truly thrive with an avoidant attachment until you are working on it ⠀⇢How conflict can actually bring you closer together if you learn to regulate your attachment style And more! Louise also shares her own experiences with:⠀The difference between solutions based love and reassurance based love when in conflict⇢⠀⇢Tolerating avoidantly attached relationships⠀⇢Trying to pull men closer to get them to experience true intimacy; and⠀⇢ Dr Tari shares why there is only one person who can fully break the cycle. If you are anxiously attached, be sure to listen to Episodes 38, 39 and 40 of the podcast before getting into this one.  ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball ⠀ Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife ⠀ Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack ⠀ Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀Quote OPENHOUSE for your discount on a relationship reading with Dr Tari - https://www.drtarimack.com/ ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  ⠀ Music Sources ⠀ Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud ⠀ Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices