#164 Dave Hollis on How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself | Impact Theory

Dave Hollis has always been somewhat skeptical about self-help, but in the long run that skepticism has served him very well. He always questions the hypotheses being put forward, both by self-appointed gurus and his own subconscious. As a result, he combines incredible vulnerability and self-awareness with a rigorously logical and brutally honest mindset. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Dave Hollis goes into incredible depth on the connections between failure, growth and fulfillment. While describing those connections he talks about his experiences with therapy, explains how he uses journaling so effectively, and even shares a few tips on marriage.

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SHOW NOTES:

Dave explains why he still calls himself a skeptic [3:20]

Dave admits that he had to get super-stuck in order to embrace self-help [4:58]

Tom and Dave discuss the power of negative visualization [8:32]

Motivation is built through consistent habits and constantly pushing yourself [12:15]

Dave talks about how he finished a challenge he thought might be impossible [15:53]

You must test the truth of the stories you’ve been told [19:54]

None of us are broken, but we all have seasons of brokenness [20:53]

Dave explains how he uses journaling to get down to the subconscious [23:38]

Dave describes the reasons why therapy was so helpful for him [25:38]

Are other people’s opinions real? Are they important? [27:41]

Dave and Tom discuss the connection between growth. discomfort and fulfillment [29:42]

It’s a guarantee in a startup that you are going to experience failure [36:15]

Dave talks about how difficult it was to no longer be the primary bread-winner [39:00]

Dave gives a few tips on marriage [44:14]

Dave shares the impact he wants to have on the world [47:11]

QUOTES:

“If there’s something in a story that was given to you through the lens of someone else’s fear, you have to test the hypothesis of your truth.” [19:33]

“None of us are broken. We have seasons of brokenness.” [21:51]

“If you are in a position where you can’t fail, you are also in a position where you will never be fulfilled.” [33:01]

“You cannot mute the anxiety without also muting the joy.” [34:02]

FOLLOW DAVE:

WEBSITE: thehollisco.com 

INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2xthYFv 

FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/39HsqYc 

TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2IDklb0 

BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

“Get Out of Your Own Way”, Dave Hollis https://amzn.to/2UbB7DR  [2:50]

“Spark”, John Ratey https://amzn.to/38EY6fH [29:58]