EP94 Addicted to Struggle? Just Say NO

If you catch yourself at times thinking, “Shit, when am I ever going to catch a break,” turn this episode up on blast. Whether you realize it or not, you might be stuck in a pattern of struggle that has now turned into an addiction of sorts. Learn WHAT this is and WHAT do do about it. Transcript: Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 94, Struggle Addiction. Just say no. Hey mama, woo! It is so good to be with you this week. Can you believe this year is almost over? Shit! In just over two weeks, we are going to be in 2021. It really blows my mind how much has transpired this year. Not just in the world. But what has happened in the lives of the women in my fearlessly fertile method community? You know, that roving band of unstoppable beat the odds women as well as in my own life across the board, it has been about growth, quantum leaps, and indeed miracles this year. And I got to tell you what my ladies have created this year, not only in making their dreams of being a mom come true, but in the way they show up in their lives, how they quit being invisible. And how they learn to use what they think and believe to their advantage. is over the top phenomenal. It's fucking breathtaking, and Mama Bear is so, so proud. A critical ingredient of the transformation my ladies see in their lives serves as inspiration for the idea I am sharing with you this week. Struggle addiction. As lovably type A control freaky professionals, there are many of us running around laboring under the slow, grinding thief of joy known as struggle. I have no idea who coined the term struggle addiction. I just know it's effects not only as someone in recovery, but also as an observer. If you listen to any of the episodes of this podcast with my ladies, you understand that I work with some truly extraordinary women, women who educate themselves and our peak performers in their profession and in their lives, their commitment to excellence, Not just in their lives, but on this journey is why they choose to work with me. They aren't willing to roll the dice with DIY. And as the amazing Steven Pressfield says, they go pro. Now, there is an important distinction that needs to be made between the truly admirable traits of commitment, discipline, persistence, and struggle. Being committed does not require struggle. Being disciplined does not require struggle. Nor does persistence require struggle. None of those admirable traits that keep women putting one foot in front of the other on this journey, by definition, require struggle. None of them. Merriam Webster's online dictionary defines struggle, used as an intransitive verb in our context, in two ways. One, to make strenuous or violent efforts in the face of difficulties or opposition, and two, to proceed with difficulty or great effort. Let me go nerdy lawyer on you for a moment as we consider this definition of struggle. What's plain as day, according to this definition of struggle, is that struggle is an attitude toward the difficulty or opposition. Look carefully at the adjectives associated with it...