EP7: The fear mongering fertility culture: Give it the finger!

Are you sick of feeling freaked out and overwhelmed by all of the pressure that seems to come from all directions about age, diet, and what you should or should NOT be doing to get pregnant? Tune in for a frank discussion about the fear mongering fertility culture. https://www.frommaybetobaby.com/ffboise0519/ Transcript: Hey gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the. Transcripts provided by Transcription Outsourcing, LLC. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 7. The fear mongering fertility culture? Give it the finger. Love, I gotta tell you that I was one naive bitch when I first set foot on my fertility journey, what feels like 300 years ago. I started off all bright eyed and bushy tailed, figuring that it would just take a few months of good old fashioned trying that I'd be super cute, pushing a stroller in no time. Ah, to be her again. What I didn't know at the time is that when that few months passed with no sign of baby in sight, that blissful naivete would soon be replaced with a torrent of freakout I had never, ever experienced in my life. At the time, nor since. And I had seen some shit. In my work as a prosecutor, I had been phone stalked by a serial arsonist, been followed around the courthouse by the family of a homicidal maniac awaiting extradition, accompanied the service of countless search warrants on major dope operations. Sat eight feet away from unshackled serial sexual predators and watched some of the most heart wrenching forensic interviews of sexual abuse victims. I have seen some shit. But I digress. The fear mongering on this journey begins as a slow creep. For me, it started real quiet like, with becoming aware of when I ovulated and tracking my cycle. Seemed simple and harmless enough. Then, when my cycle didn't look exactly like the charts I found on Google, representing a quote unquote healthy cycle, I went into a state of panic. Shit got even crazier when I started obsessing over my ovulation predictor kits not giving me smiley faces right on day 14, or when my temperatures weren't exactly as they should have been according to my basal body chart. Lights and sirens started going off within me, shouting, Oh my god, there's something desperately wrong with me! If things weren't exactly perfect. Not once did I ever stop to consider what was normal for me. The fear mongering was like this Foggy, sort of misty wraith that began to take over my life. My own internal turmoil was then gleefully met with an onslaught of what I call the fear mongering fertility culture. The minute my own freakout started, that culture was all too ready to meet me. It seems like everyone, friends, family, co workers, you name it, comes out of the woodwork with some tale of woe to tell when it comes to fertility. Just think about what comes up when you do an internet search on the subject. Harrowing statistics, images of solemn women staring out the window reminiscent of a fucking 80s summer's eve douche commercial. and desperation, desperation, desperation. I have no idea how or when this started, but even without all of that, it seems to be that there's this notion out there that if you are over 35 when you start a family, you are late to the game, and things will be hard. Even in 2019, at a time when women have more choices and power than perhaps we've ever had,