EP6: Struggling with “What Ifs?” Here’s how to deal.

What if you learned how to stop torturing yourself with “What Ifs?” Living your fertility journey at the mercy of What Ifs is miserable and may cause you to miss priceless opportunities. Learn how fearless with them! https://www.frommaybetobaby.com/ffboise0519/ Transcript: Hey gorgeous. If you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, fertility mindset master, former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the. Odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine, bad assery, and loads of hell Yes. For your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless, baby fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode six. Struggling with What Ifs. Here's How to Deal. Isn't getting caught up in a what if spiral the fricking worst. As a former prosecutor with countless complex jury trials under my belt, it became part of my DNA to think 15 steps ahead of my opponent, anticipating and planning for what ifs, like a mofo. While that made me an assassin in the courtroom, it left me writhing in agony of what if fing myself into abject terror on my fertility journey. And it went something like this. What if the doctor, distracted by a fight with his wife before my retrieval, misses some of my precious eggs? What if the heels I wear are causing my uterus to tilt in a weird way, sabotaging my embryo's valiant efforts at implantation? What if Dr. X was right? I should be eating venison. Where the fuck am I gonna get my hands on some venison? Is it even deer season? What if God is punishing me for wanting it all? Oh fuck, can I really have it all? Those what ifs barely scratch the surface of the masochism once exercised by my twisted, negativity, indulgent imagination. I bet you have some real nasty grams of what ifs of your own, you dirty little bitch. The insane thing about what ifs is that they can render an otherwise deeply intelligent woman into a quivering mass of pathetic jelly. This shit is immobilizing and frankly one of the arch enemies of your success on this journey. Unless, of course, you learn how to approach them correctly. All of this what if ing seems rational at the time. We what if ourselves into indecisive oblivion with generally good intentions. We want to narrow the margin of error. We want our babies to get here already. But, having defied the odds using the power of mindset and teaching other women around the world to do the same, it has become abundantly clear that most of us are going about the what if game all wrong. I discovered that not only can you neutralize what ifs with a single response, you can actually use them to your advantage. Yes, use them to your advantage. It starts with you telling yourself the whole truth about your what ifs. They have an undeniably negative bias. They are intellectually dishonest, ignoring an equally possible positive outcome. They presume powerlessness on your part. Total and complete gross victim y bullshit. Quit worshipping at the altar of negative what ifs. It's boring and covered with spiders. Gross. If you are trying to pull a rabbit out of a hat on this journey, you can't afford to waste a second of your precious time or energy with any of that go nowhere bullshit. Your new approach, if you wish to accept it, is simple. Here's how you are going to respond to the question, what if And you fill in the blank. What if blank? Okay?