EP11: Fearless Q&A: Feeling Low? Here’s What To Do.

Plucked straight from the Fearlessly Fertile Community, is a question from Deirdre in Ireland about how to pick yourself up and dust yourself off when you feel down…particularly if your period makes an unwelcome appearance. It’s good sh*t. Hey gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist, I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless, baby, fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 11. I am so jazzed to be here with you this week because we're going to be doing something a little different. Back when I started this podcast, I had reached out to my global community of Fearlessly Fertile women and asked them what were the questions that they most wanted me to address about living the fertility journey in a way that's going to support you. So this week we have selected one of the questions that came through and I got to tell you, my ladies are so thoughtful, smart, amazingly creative, and badass as shit that I really think that taking the time to speak directly to what's truly on women's minds as they live this journey is going to be a real game changer. So, let's start with this first question. And this comes from Deirdre in Ireland. Hi, Roseanne. What I'd love to ask is how do you get yourself back on track when your hopes are starting to fade? I have no real reason to feel this way other than another period has come along and I'm really finding it difficult to lift myself out of a low mood. I usually spring back, dust myself off, and get back on track. But this time it feels like a light has gone out and something has slipped away. Thanks so much, Deirdre. Thank you so much for such a smart and heartfelt question, Deirdre. So I'm going to start out with this. Now this may sound a little bit like a semantics game, but because I love you and I want you to be successful and you have an opportunity here and now to save yourself years of misery. I'm going to zero in on this first point. In your question, you use the word hope. You're losing hope. Well, here's what you've got to know. Hope on this journey isn't enough. As Oprah so famously stated, you don't get what you hope for. You don't get what you wish for. You get what you believe. And that absolutely counts on this journey. It absolutely applies because Look, every single day we have an opportunity to make choices about the things we do or don't do on this journey. The support that we get, the tests that we, we have done, the treatments and interventions that we consider and then end up doing. All of our actions directly are influenced by what we think and believe, and hope is. When you think about it, hope is kind of like, yeah, well, you know, I hope it, I hope it happens. It's possible. It won't Hope is equivocal. You've got to make the decision here and now that you decide. to be a mother. You cannot afford to hope to be a mom. You've got to take a step back and really look at what you believe. Is being a mom a nice to have for you, my darling, or have you decided that being a mom, you feel that in your soul? You know that you feel that in your soul. You know that it's part of your life purpose and you are not going to take a dirt nap without having become a mom. Think about that. Think about how definitive that is, and think about,