EP104 Boundaries: Where The F*ck Do I Start?

If the subject of boundaries was easy, we’d all have them with ease. That’s rarely, if ever, the case. There’s nothing like the fertility journey to put a spotlight on exactly where our boundaries are porous, or downright lacking. Learn exactly what boundaries are and where to start with them. You’ve never needed them more! Transcript: Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 104, Boundaries. Where the fuck do I start? Hey, loves, I am positively thrilled to be here with you this week as we begin a three part series on something that is of massive importance on this journey. We often fail to appreciate the value of because the topic ain't easy. Boundaries. Boundaries is a term that gets tossed around a lot, but the reality is very few of us are cognizant of truly what they are and how they might look in our lives. I don't care how many self help books you've read or how fired up you get when you think of the topic. Even if you think you are an OG when it comes to boundaries, every one of us can stand to up our game when it comes to them. Because in life, they're constantly being tested. There may be even those of you with boundaries so porous that you're listening and thinking, Boundaries? Huh? What the shit is she talking about? Let's start in a logical, linear, lawyerly fashion by defining what we're talking about here. In the context of what we are discussing, boundaries, as I see them, are the rules we choose to live by. Particularly with reference to the way we interact with people. What are the personal rules that you choose to live by? Boundaries are just a set of rules. See, easy peasy, light and breezy. Sometimes, when people hear the word boundaries, they immediately go into a panic, thinking of confrontation, heartache, tears, gnashing of teeth, pounding of chests, and loss of love. Can that should happen as a result of having boundaries? Sure, but they are certainly not a requirement. All of those things can happen when you take a stand for anything. It's part of being a mature adult. We often tell ourselves outlandish stories about having boundaries that are so laden with terrifying fiction that we talk ourselves out of having them entirely. Then, wonder why we are miserable and exhausted in our lives. As lovably type A women, we tend to be, for better or worse, rule followers. That doesn't mean we don't have independent streaks a mile wide, or that we are sheep. Some are, but not my ladies. Just as a side note, my ladies are goats. Greatest of all time. They are not sheep. All that I'm saying is that we simply love things happening in an orderly, predictable way. What's funny to me is that, at least in my opinion and experience, while we like the idea of boundaries, we tend to be wonderfully shitty about our own, more often than not. That has to do with the overachiever in us desiring love and connection through pleasing or achieving. But that's an entirely different topic for discussion. Suffice it to say that there is an interesting irony in women like us when it comes to boundaries and t...