55: [Self-Help] The Pursuit of Perfect - Tal Ben Shahar | Do you need to be constantly dissatisfied in order to feed your ambition?

1. 2 sides of Perfectionism a.Cons -Very deep fear of failure -Never being satisfied b.Pros -Doing the best we can 2. As ambitious people, we believe that: a.Until I accomplish a certain goal - I can’t be happy b.In order to be successful I need to be constantly dissatisfied until I accomplish the goal 3. So, Is it possible to be hungry and satisfied at the same time? a.YES! Thats the mark of a great intelligence - being able to hold 2 opposing ideas in your mind at the same time 4. Is your Life an Odyssey or a Sisyphean Battle a.Odyssey = Life is an adventure -There are wins and losses -But you enjoy the journey b.Sisyphean Battle -Feeling like you are Never winning -Trying to roll a boulder up a mountain - goes on forever 5. As ambitious people - we tend to be harsh towards ourselves a.But Self compassion is even more important than self esteem b.You Treat yourself like you would treat someone you love dearly c.The constant question: If I let up on myself …. How will I drive myself? d.Ask yourself: What is the real motivation behind me wanting to do what I want to do? -Dig for the intrinsic motivations 6. You will not always be happy a.Accept your negative emotions b.Give yourself the permission to be human 7. Quotes: a.When you appreciate the good in your life, the good appreciates b.In life we must Learn to fail or fail to learn 8. Action Items: a.Gratitude Journal -Write down 3 things you are grateful for b.If you were completely anonymous - what would you be doing?